My oldest son is at the age of, let’s say, asserting himself whenever and with whomever he pleases. You hear about the Terrible Two’s, but no one warns you about the Fast and Furious Five’s, where you look at your child and ask, “Who are you and what did you do with my sweet, respectful little boy?” To be honest, this phase has and continues to be a rough one. While I want to raise a confident, assertive and independent thinker, the road to “the promised land” is, quite frankly, making me a little crazy.
Confession: I yell. I often react first and think later. I’ve spanked my son. I’m not always the nice mommy that I want to be. I sometimes feel out of control when his behavior isn’t to my liking. I don’t always treat him the way I know he deserves to be treated.
They say the first step towards healing is to admit that you’re sick. Well, I’m admitting it — I’m a wannabe positive parenting mama, who can’t keep it together when it comes to my son. Wahhhhhh! I’m not proud of my past, but I am excited for the future, all because of what I read in this article.
When I initially saw the title of the article, I was like “No way; that can’t work.” By the time I finished reading it, I was ready to give it a try. So, I decided that starting tomorrow, July 1st, punishments will no longer exist in our home. Well, at least for the next 31 days. Hey, you have to start somewhere, right? Oh, and isn’t July (the month of freedom) just perfect? Yeah, I think so too.
Starting tomorrow I’m really going to challenge myself to be a more creative, understanding, patient and nurturing mama by banishing the threat of punishments and getting to the root of why we (my son and I) behave the way we do. My guess is that he’s feeding off of my energy, and while it hurts to think that I’m probably the cause of the problem, it’s reassuring to know that I can also be part of the solution.
I’ll keep you all posted on our progress. Wish us (really, me) luck!
P.S. — If you want to join in on the challenge, you can go here and become part of a private Facebook group where we can support each other for the next 31 days and beyond.